About Mary

Mary Gebhart

September 2015

It’s hard to believe that I started this blog five years ago! So much has changed since August of 2010, and while I’m not really any closer to moving to New York City it’s occurred to me that the dream of living in New York is what fuels my creative drive. It’s the idea that continues to push me forward when I’m unsure of the next step, and reminds me that I’m more than the sum of my every day experiences and perceived limitations.

What’s been interesting is that, over the past two years, I’ve grown to truly love Chicago. I’ve become accustomed to living without a car and relying on public transportation to get me almost anywhere I want to go. I’ve enjoyed being close to good friends, and making new ones along the way. But most of all, I’ve reaffirmed my belief that deep down, I am a true city girl who needs to be in the middle of it all – the hustle, bustle and crazy, wonderful multi-cultural mix that makes up this amazing city. I can’t imagine living life anywhere but the city.

Additionally, as I’ve reexamined my blog and tried to decide what direction it should take (and whether I should rename it), I’ve become increasingly aware of the fact that most changes in my life have taken about one year to come to fruition. My move out of academics and into retail, my move from Michigan to Chicago, my recovery from illness and building a freelance writing business have all taken about a year to transition into.

Right now, I am working on building my freelance writing business and am, for the first time since I left teaching, waking up excited by every possible opportunity I have to write. It’s not been easy by any stretch of the imagination, but I can honestly say that I am loving my life and looking forward to what the future holds.

Will I make it to New York? I think I’ll definitely be back to visit, in fact, J. and I are planning a trip in 2017 to celebrate my 50th birthday and the 10th anniversary of my decision to totally revamp my life. That’s as far as I’m planning, for now.

But stay tuned because, as my family has always said, “We never know what she’s going to do next, but we always know it’ll be interesting!”

Meanwhile, come in and look around, and don’t be afraid to add your own big dreams to the mix! There’s more than enough room in here for everyone!


August 2013

It’s been three years since I started this blog, and while I’m not yet living in New York City I am moving closer to achieving my dreams.  In April, I relocated to Chicago, and am loving living and working in this beautiful city.

I’m still absolutely convinced in the power of dreaming big and then adjusting according to what life throws my way.  What’s been fascinating is that this blog has been both a motivating factor (practice what you preach!) and an active reminder of the power of writing things down.  I have always believed that a good portion of what I accomplish is the result of making it concrete by writing it down, and the past three years have proven me correct.

I’ve also been inspired by the writings of other bloggers and the steps they have taken to realize their dreams.  The communal sharing of thoughts, ideas, dreams and goals strengthens all of those who participate in the process, and inspires me when I feel my spirit lagging.

If you haven’t yet joined the “dream big” movement, there’s no time like the present.  Come on in, the water’s fine – and there are lots of other folks in here who will hold you up if you feel yourself sinking!

Here’s to another year of dreaming and doing!

Join me, won’t you?


September 2011

A little over a year ago, I began this blog as a means of “being the change” and encouraging my students to dream – and to write – but I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to maintain my own dreaming and/or writing.  I was nervous about “putting it all out there” for anyone to read, and I was worried that I’d lose interest in writing after the term was over.

A year later, I find that not only have I continued to write, but I’ve also continued to dream.   I still dream of moving to New York City [and I believe that some day I will], but I know it’s going to take at least another year [and possibly more] to do what I need to do to make the move a realistic endeavor.  However, as the result of blogging about this dream, I now have a host of new dreams to add to my list!

Blogging for the past year has shown me how important it is to set goals and work toward them, but the most important thing it’s taught me is that it’s never too late to dream big.

I hope you’ll join me as I embark on another year of working to make my dreams come true!


August 2010

I am a 44-year-old college Humanities instructor who dreams of living in New York City.

Why blog about this experience?

First, over the past two years, I’ve written down more ideas, dreams and plans that I can begin to count, and many of these things have become reality for me.  For a while, I wondered how or why some things worked and others didn’t.  I finally traced it back to the fact that the dreams that have worked have been the ones that I’ve shared with others – even when those dreams seemed completely outlandish and unattainable – because (as I am constantly telling my students) in order to make changes, a person must first acknowledge what it is they want to change, and then they need to write it down. While there’s no guarantee that writing dreams down will make them come true, – that requires commitment, dedication, and a little bit of luck –  thereis enormous power in the writing process.

Second, there is something comforting about being able to receive feedback and input from others and writing a blog offers this opportunity. I can’t think of a better place to ask all of the questions that are going to arise as I prepare to make this move, and I am hopeful that a few folks will read what I’m writing, and offer up their own experiences, mistakes, and/or advice. Then again, it might simply be that sharing experiences reinforces my faith in the power of human connection and bolsters my belief that when we share knowledge everyone benefits.

Finally, I decided to blog about this journey because for a long time I felt like I’d lost even the ability to dream.  I feel extraordinarily privileged to have so many people in my life who encourage and feed my dreams by simply believing that I can actually do anything.   They keep me awake and alive, and for that, I love them more than they will ever know.  And while I’ve been extremely fortunate to have a strong support network, I know that not everyone does.  So, for those folks out there who are dreaming, and need someone to believe in them and have faith in their dreams – I do.  I truly believe that together we can make our dreams come true.

Faith is the essential element, though, because asGeorge Lancaster Spalding said, “[l]ife without faith in something is too narrow a space to live.”

Dream with me, won’t you?


4 Responses to “About Mary”

  1. Harnew July 5, 2011 at 11:42 pm #

    Good idea documenting this experience. I see this blog has been up a year though so how much loner do you have?


    • Mary July 7, 2011 at 10:49 am #

      Thank you for reading my blog! My projected move date was originally January 2012, and if everything works as planned, I might just make the move by then. There are a host of factors involved, so I can’t say for certain that this will be the actual move date, but I’m definitely planning on being in New York sometime in 2012! We shall see!


  2. PlatoGT October 13, 2011 at 12:31 am #

    Holy crap I found you! I lost my other yahoo account (j***.k***) and hopefully this place will let you see my new email. At least you know I am alive and vise versa 😀

    Looking forward to talking to you again



    • Mary October 13, 2011 at 9:59 am #

      Yay! You’re alive, and I’m alive! *laughs* It’s good to hear from you!! Let’s chat soon!


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